Should i reunite with my ex

Start from the beginning, and do it differently — it could work this time. Make sure both of you are equally determined to correct the old problems.

If he or she is blaming you for everything that went wrong, disaster is imminent. Insist on couples therapy for both of you. He initiated the contact. The talks on the phone were fun, but in person something was lacking.

Anger was below the surface. Guess he never really let it go. This was just a re-enactment to him. Thanks for sharing your experience, Kathy. Similar to you, it was hard for me to feel chemistry when there was no relationship in the present. I agree, so much changes between then and now, how can one expect to immediately ignite the relationship? When I told my ex that I would love to get to know him better over time and then revisit the possibility of a relationship, he kinda dropped out of sight.

I think our stories are far more common than the few who really do make it as a couple decades later. It certainly makes for good fantasy, though! Your email address will not be published. Notify me of follow-up comments by email.

Every situation is different so while you might be looking at J. Lo rekindling her romance with Ben Affleck and rolling your eyes, remember there are no strict rules about whether you should or shouldn't go back to your ex.

Skip navigation! Story from Relationships. The news of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck dating again — a whole 17 years after calling off their engagement — coupled with the boom in breakups post-lockdown has made many people nostalgic for relationships past.

In the decade that followed, they both had other serious long-term relationships that ended for their own reasons, and got to live out their 20s without each other. I was optimistic about seeing him though. They recently moved in together and plan to get married next year.

Reuniting with an ex is not something that happens from one day to the next, and you need to lay a proper foundation. It our goal to provide you with tips and tools to help you coach yourself through this challenging period. As I began saying in the introduction to this article, it is very easy to make mistakes when your heart is broken and you want to be with the person you love.

This is when we often see people panicking and doing things that make them look desperate to their ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Think about it this way. Chances are that you were with your ex for a while and they have gotten used to your presence. Now that the breakup has taken place, they expect you to be there, begging and pleading with them for their attention. It is basic human nature to take something for granted that is always readily available to us, especially when we feel like it is something that belongs to us.

As I said, this is a pretty surefire way to make your ex run for the hills. One of the worst things you could do right now is give your ex empty promises. If they left you, it means that they had lost faith in your overall ability to make them happy in the long run, and words are not going to change this. But you know what will? I will go over this tool in a moment, but one of the most powerful techniques used for getting an ex back consists of cutting communication with an ex, and for good reason!